Beating the crab (my way)

The year 2018 was coming to an end.Just the previous  year my partner and me had become grandparents to the cutest little boy.we were both gearing to spend the remains of our day in a relaxed  manner. Iwas mentally making lists of books I had to read and places we had to visit. We were long overdue  for our yearly health checkup. So on a sunny  Friday morning in November we set out to the hospital for it.Little did we know what was waiting for us there.

My journey is no different from many of you out there. Shaken to the core by the declaration of my oncologist, I waded through the next few months in disbelief and pain .with a supportive family I managed to go through all that tolerably well. I tried my best to keep myself sane and strong .It wasn’t easy at all but I tried my best. Now an year has passed since I had been diagnosed with cancer and almost six months since I finished all my treatments. Now my periodical visits to the hospital and meeting more people with anguish writ large on their faces make me realize what a nasty voyage it had been and is .It is as much a mind game .While your body is subjected to a whole lot of pain due to the disease as well as treatments like surgery ,chemotherapy and radiation, your mind should take charge and make you stronger and stronger as days follow.

       

   

Like all things in the world come to an end I learned that my life would also end,may be a bit too soon. Being diagnosed with cancer and fighting it vigorously taught me a few things. This blog is an effort to share some of it to others,especially to other cancer warriors whose journey I know is not an easy one.This is also an effort to make it a bit lighter and easier for my kindred spirits.

Lets be very clear about the priorities. Whichever part of the world you are from, cancer is going to cost you a lot .So folks be sure to have a good insurance coz that will help you sort out things in a better way.

There are two questions that you should never ask once you get diagnosed with cancer. Question number one -Why me?

Question number two- Why cancer?

Take it from me there are no answers to these questions. Anyone anywhere can get it .When my oncologist pronounced the verdict I went into a frozen mode.Acceptance was very hard .I saw no reason at all to be getting cancer.I have never smoked tobacco or was an alcoholic at any point of my life. Always been eating home cooked food ,never had any problems with the birth of my two children and have lactated well.Why the hell should I be getting this?I have never eaten red meat in my life.Coming from an all vegetarian family my life was an organic and disciplined one.I asked my doctor why me?He looked at me for a while and replied “fate madam”!.As an after thought he added “well the vegetables that you have eaten all your life must have contained pesticides on them. You can’t escape that?”.So folks don’t ask questions, just accept it and gear yourself to kick it on the butt.